|The pre-game line-up before the finals|
|CC with 2nd place hardware|
One of CC's teammate did not participate in this wonderful experience. She did not participate because her dad made the decision to quit the team prior to the tournament.
Here is how it went down:
Memorial Day Weekend is a big soccer tournament weekend. Our U11 Elite team was playing in Dayton. The U12 Elite team was playing in Columbus.
A dad on our team has a daughter on both teams, so to keep the family together for the holiday weekend and reduce the number of hotel rooms needed, he asked the U12 coach if his younger daughter could play up.
The U12 coach called our coach to ask permission to take the player. Our coach approved the move.
Our coach then called up another defender from the B team, a defender who he has wanted to call up for awhile now. He saw this as a great opportunity to see how this B team defender would play at the highest level prior to tryouts coming up.
The U12 coach then decided that he did not want to add the younger player to his tournament roster.
The dad then called our coach to inform him that his daughter would be coming to the U11 tournament. The coach informed the dad that he has already registered for the tournament with the B player on the roster. He said that she could come to the tournament, but expect reduced playing time.
The dad was not happy with this situation, became irate and decided to quit.
The Main Point
Unfortunately, this is not a unique situation. Many parents over-react when they feel that their kid is being wronged.
Who loses in situations like this?
The girl, who is a great kid. She didn't play soccer all weekend long and missed a chance to win a trophy.
The girl's teammates who missed playing with their friend.
The dad, who is a great guy and probably feels sick about the situation. I have never gone to this extreme, but I have approached coaches and regretted it. I don't do that anymore.
Tip - Let the season play out and then make a rational decision for your kid.