I have a confession. I was a terrible coach for my first son. I was too competitive and uptight. Over time, I learned from my mistakes. I learned how to coach in a much more positive way. I learned from trainers. I learned from reading books and websites. But most importantly, I learned from the verbal and non verbal feedback I was getting from the kids. So when, Alan Stein approached me with an idea for a post "Coaching Lessons Taught By Toddlers", I was thrilled to include it on StatsDad.
Alan Stein is a social media influencer and the owner of Stronger Team. He is the Strength & Conditioning Coach for the DeMatha Catholic High School basketball program, and a performance consultant for Nike Basketball. Alan brings a wealth of valuable experience to his training arsenal after years of extensive work with elite high school, college, and NBA players.
More importantly, Alan Stein is a father of twin boys. And those two boys have made Alan a better coach.
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Alan Stein - Strength & Conditioning Coach |
I am the proud father of 20 month old twin boys, Luke & Jack (aka The Born
Backcourt). Being a father has
brought more joy than I could have ever imagined. It has also made me a better coach.
How has being the father
of toddlers made me a better coach?
Simple – my sons, as young as they are, embody several qualities necessary
to being a successful coach – and they remind me of these things every day:
1. Toddlers are Persistent: they never quit. Ever.
When they want something… to be fed, to be changed, or to have a new toy… they
do not stop until they get what they want. And they are relentless
when learning a new skill (like walking, holding utensils, etc.). They spend hours and hours practicing
until they master it.
How
persistent are you as a coach? How relentless are you in your own development?
2. Toddlers are Communicators: they speak their minds
freely. Granted, it’s in the form of crying, grunting, laughing, and
Gibberish... but they do communicate. And they are attentive
listeners. When Mickey Mouse or the Wiggles are talking, trust me,
they are listening!
How effective is your communication with your players? How about with
your assistants?
3. Toddlers are Enthusiastic: they have a passion
for everything they do!
When they are happy, they bounce around and their faces light up the room. When
they aren’t, they flail their limbs and scream like wild hyenas. But they put their
heart and soul into every aspect of their lives.
How much enthusiasm do you have for coaching? Do you raise the level of
those around you?
4. Toddlers crave Structure: they are on a
schedule. They go to sleep at the same time every night, get up at
the same time every day, and eat (and nap) at routine times. They
are very consistent.
Do you
have a daily routine? Do your practices have structure or are they haphazard?
5. Toddlers are Uninhibited: they don’t care about
looking cool. In fact, they don’t even know what cool is. They will
(literally) crap their pants and just keep on
going. They aren’t afraid to make mistakes.
going. They aren’t afraid to make mistakes.
Are you worried what others will think if you make a mistake? Do you intentionally
leave your comfort zone?
6. Toddlers are Creative: they think outside of the
box. They will spend an hour playing with a wooden spoon or an empty
paper towel roll. They make the most of what they have.
How much
imagination do you put into your practices?
7. Toddlers are Honest: they hold nothing back when telling you what they
think. They have no hidden agenda
and they speak from their heart.
They don’t say things to hurt your feelings; they say them because they
believe it to be true.
Do you honestly communicate to every player on your team and let them
know their role as well as their strengths and weaknesses?
8. Toddlers teach Patience: they aren’t necessarily
patient, but as their father I have to be! If you’ve ever waited 45 minutes for
your toddler to put on their shoes by themselves or ever played Ring Around the
Rosie 271 times in a row… you know what I mean.
Are you patient with your team when things aren’t going well?
As a coach, if you are
persistent, enthusiastic, creative, honest, patient, structured, uninhibited,
and can effectively communicate… you will
be successful… regardless of W’s and L’s.
I sincerely appreciate the
opportunity to contribute to this outstanding blog. Feel free to email me directly at Alan@StrongerTeam.com with any
questions, comments, or if I can be of service in any way.
Train hard. Train smart.
Enjoy the journey.
Alan Stein
Great blog post - very similar to some of the posts that I have tried to make on my blog at www.sobeyeg.com It is amazing the lessons that we learn from our children. Just goes to show you how lucky we are as parents.
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