My wife and coach of my daughter's 4th grade volleyball team was confronted by an unhappy parent after the last game of the season yesterday.
- The first year 4th grade team struggled all season long.
- Most schools in the area start volleyball in 3rd grade. The extra year experience gave many of our opponents a competitive advantage.
- My wife and her co-head coach were dismayed that they could not help their team win more games.
- My wife and her co-head coach played all the girls equally all year long regardless of ability.
- Typically each girl would play two games and sit one. The parish rule is that every player must play one entire game of the three in the regular season. Playing time is at the coaches discretion in the playoffs.
- During the regular season, a match would consist of 3 games even if one team won the first 2 games.
- During the playoffs, the matches are best 2 of 3. A match is over when a team wins two games. A third game is not played if a team wins the first two.
- Friday night, my wife and her co-coach spent an hour on the phone setting the line ups for all three games of their first playoff match.
- They decided to rotate in the best 7 players in the first game instead of 8 like they have done all year long.
- They did this to give the team the best chance to win the first game to give the team a chance to play 3 games and perhaps advance.
- Unfortunately, the team lost the first game against a much better team. (15-9)
- Three girls did not play the first game, but were scheduled to play in games 2 and 3.
- Unfortunately the second game was a lopsided loss. (15-3)
- Because the game was so one sided, our team did not get to rotate much.
- One of the three girls that did not play the first game did not get to serve in the second game because her serving slot did not come up during the short one-sided game.
- After the game, this player cried her eyes out.
- I thought she was crying because they lost the game. No she was crying because she did not get to serve the entire day.
- This obviously upset the parent.
- The parent confronted my wife and the co-head coach to share his discontent about his child's lack of playing time.
- My wife and her co-coach were completely taken by surprise. Dumfounded, they did not have much to say.
- Both caring and sensitive coaches walked away greatly upset.
- This dad needs a serious reality check.
The Main Point
This disgruntled parent was completely out of line. First he violated a team rule that states an upset parent cannot approach a coach until after a 24 hour cooling off period. If he had, maybe he would have realized that his daughter did not play a lot because the team only played 2 games. Maybe he would have realized that his daughter did not get to serve only by happenstance and not some evil plot by the coaches to thwart her opportunity to serve.
Listen there are unfair coaches in this world and I think that parents have every right to approach the coach with concerns or questions or even complaints, but this must be done in a respectful manner. I think that the 24 hour cool down period is a good idea.
My daughter had a great year and loves the game. She will eventually need to pick one sport over another, but for now we are happy that she is playing multiple sports.
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